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Your boss is talking during a team meeting about how employees should handle difficult customers, and he says everyone needs to smile, remain pleasant, and keep the customer happy even when the customer becomes rude or aggressive. You immediately think about what happened to your coworker last week, when a customer started yelling at her…
You may have asked yourself the same question hundreds of times: Was I sexually abused by my mother? Maybe something happened during bathing, dressing, sleeping, touching, affection, privacy, or what she called “care,” and when you remember it now your stomach tightens or you immediately want to move away from the memory. There may have…
Children develop a sense of identity through relationships, and the adults around them help shape what their natural capacities mean by noticing, remembering, encouraging, and reflecting them back. A child may feel drawn toward writing, music, movement, visual creativity, humor, leadership, curiosity, emotional sensitivity, pattern recognition, or problem-solving, and those gifts begin to take form…
How Attachment Trauma Makes Safe Love Feel Unfamiliar You and your partner have just gotten home from another lovely evening together. Both of you have been working hard, juggling responsibilities, and you decided to end the week with something simple and kind, a dinner at your favorite place, the kind of night you both enjoy…
You’re sitting at your kitchen table staring at a life you worked incredibly hard to build, and yet somewhere along the way it has begun feeling unfamiliar. Maybe your business isn’t growing the way you expected despite everything you’ve invested in it. Perhaps the career you’ve chased so hard unexpectedly, hit a snag due to…
5 Attachment and Somatic Shifts That Help You Parent With More Confidence and Less Guilt The question usually comes at the end of the day, after the children have finally falling asleep. After you’ve finished picking up the toys, at least enough to walk through the living room without stepping on something sharp, lunches are…
How Mother-Daughter Sexual Abuse Makes Success Difficult to Receive You’re driving home from the dinner your team put together the night the deal finally closed, the one you’d been chasing for the better part of a year. Your business partner raises a glass and says, “this never would have happened without you.” For a few…
Sunday afternoon arrives and the conditions for rest are finally present. The laundry is finished, the emails are answered, the errands are done, and nothing urgent is pulling at your attention. You sit down expecting relief to settle into your body. Instead, something begins building almost immediately. It arrives as restlessness, as low-grade pressure, as…
You didn’t ask for much. You figured things out on your own, got good grades, stayed quiet when things were tense, and learned to read the room before you fully understood yourself. Your parents called you “easy”, the adults around you called you mature, and they all meant it as a compliment but what…
It’s almost midnight and you are still sitting at your computer even though you are completely exhausted. The proposal was technically finished earlier tonight, but something inside keeps pulling you back to it. You already revised it twice yesterday, once this morning before work, and again after dinner because something about it is still not…