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Why Do I Feel Like I’ve Lost Myself? How Attachment Trauma Makes Competence Become Your Identity and Why Life Begins to Fall Apart When It Doesn’t Work Anymore

A thoughtful Black woman sits at a table by a window, looking out while surrounded by a notebook, papers, photographs, and a coffee mug. The image accompanies a blog about how attachment trauma can lead to building an identity around competence and losing a sense of self during major life transitions.

You’re sitting at your kitchen table staring at a life you worked incredibly hard to build, and yet somewhere along the way it has begun feeling unfamiliar. Maybe your business isn’t growing the way you expected despite everything you’ve invested in it. Perhaps the career you’ve chased so hard unexpectedly, hit a snag due to…

Why Do I Never Feel Like I’m Doing Enough as a Mother?

By Chana Ceasar

African American mother sitting on the floor looking overwhelmed while her two young children play around her in a busy family living room.

5 Attachment and Somatic Shifts That Help You Parent With More Confidence and Less Guilt The question usually comes at the end of the day, after the children have finally falling asleep. After you’ve finished picking up the toys, at least enough to walk through the living room without stepping on something sharp, lunches are…

Why Can’t I Enjoy My Success

By Chana Ceasar

How Mother-Daughter Sexual Abuse Makes Success Difficult to Receive You’re driving home from the dinner your team put together the night the deal finally closed, the one you’d been chasing for the better part of a year. Your business partner raises a glass and says, “this never would have happened without you.” For a few…

You’re a Perfectionist and You Don’t Even Know It

By Chana Ceasar

It’s almost midnight and you are still sitting at your computer even though you are completely exhausted. The proposal was technically finished earlier tonight, but something inside keeps pulling you back to it. You already revised it twice yesterday, once this morning before work, and again after dinner because something about it is still not…

Why Success Doesn’t Create a Stable Sense of Self When You Grew Up Unprotected

By Chana Ceasar

A woman in a blazer sits at a desk in front of a laptop, rubbing her eyes with both hands, appearing exhausted and overwhelmed. Text on the image reads: “Why Success Doesn’t Create a Stable Sense of Self When You Grew Up Unprotected: Attachment Trauma, Overfunctioning, and the Achievement Trap High-Achieving Women Don’t Talk About.”

Attachment Trauma, Overfunctioning, and the Achievement Trap High-Achieving Women Don’t Talk About You close your laptop after finishing something that mattered. It could be a launch, a deal, a major decision, or a piece of work that required your full attention for weeks or months, the kind of sustained focus that organizes your entire day…