Parenting Manifesto

parenting manifesto

  • Be Attentive
  • Take care of your needs
  • Understand your needs
  • Learn your triggers
  • Pay attention to how your feeling
  • Be consistent
  • Show affection
  • Model what you would like to see
  • Don’t forget to praise
  • Validate their feelings
  • Punishments should not be a life sentence
    they should fit the transgression and be time limited
    don’t forget to tell them you love them even when they drive you nuts
  • Enjoy those pleasant moments together
  • Listen to them
  • Foster creativity
  • Cook with them
  • Work in the yard with them
  • Build with them
  • Set a bed time routine, which consists of slowing the body down. bedtime story, hugs and kisses (creating safety)
  • Create and maintain a physical and emotionally safe environment
  • Kids are brilliant at reading nonverbal-your body language can say more than your words
  • Find a support system-a community which aligns with your values
  • Talk with your child. Ask them about their day
  • Eat dinner with them
  • Give them chores it fosters responsibility
  • Proximity is gold-sometimes just being in the same space is enough
  • Crying is ok for your child, boy or girl, no matter the age. Do not shame your child for crying. “You have nothing to cry about”. is not a good reaction to your child’s tears even if they are crying because they they did something wrong. we all have our individual level of pain, physical and emotional, don’t discount their feelings
  • Slow down
  • Holding your baby is NOT spoiling them-your loving arms should always be a safe place to take refuge

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Chana Ceasar

Chana Ceasar

Hi I'm Chana and I am a licensed therapist specializing in treating sexual abuse and other traumas. Whether you are pregnant survivor, a parent of a survivor or an adult survivor of sexual abuse or complex trauma I am here to support you on your healing so you can love yourself, find your empowered voice, and have the relationships you desire.


  1. Francine Ortiz on January 24, 2017 at 4:02 pm

    I LOVE this! Thank you! 🙂

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