Healing from the Trauma and Pain of October 7th Massacre

The events of October 7th have changed many of us Jews. Whether you are a Jew living in Israel or living in the diaspora, specifically America, the events of October 7th was shocking and terrifying. There is deep, deep sadness and grief, that has yet to go away to this day. It shows up in different forms, from anger, helplessness, guilt, anxiety, and difficulty focusing. It’s compounding, for many of us, by witnessing how easy it was, not only for the world to forget about what happened, but to attack Israelis and Jews. To generally make us feel a lot less safe in this world.

Whether you are a professional who goes into work just wanting to do your job but hears chatter around “Jews doing this” or other antisemitic conspiracy theories about Jewish controlling the world or dehumanizing Israelis, or you are a student on campus just wanting to finish up school and go to class, but you have protesters shouting at you. Our sense of safety is constantly being threatened. We are constantly assessing whether things are safe or not, and it’s exhausting and sad. It’s terrifying and we feel alone. We feel like we don’t have too many people, many people have lost friends, so we feel more lonely. For others we do have some community but we feel broken. For others, this tragedy, has lead to a desire to explore judaism and to be around other jews. This is a very normal and healthy response which can also help us feel more connected and safe.

As a Jewish person, who is also an Israeli citizen, but who wasn’t living in Israel at the time, I can relate to the complicated feelings of feeling afraid and upset as we well as guilty for feeling this way because I wasn’t directly impacted in terms of not being on the kibbutzim or at the Nova music festival. But it’s important to recognize we are one big family, and so what happens to Jews around the world impacts us. We don’t compare trauma. Trauma is trauma. To witness this massacre and see people making excuses for it, is very triggering, especially for those folks who have been victims of SA. I just want to send my heart out to people who have experienced SA in the past and are constantly being triggered seeing how callous people are to the survivors of October 7th. I see you, I believe you, and other peoples dehumanization is abhorrent.

I know many of us just want support around how to navigate our grief during this time safely, with a therapist where we don’t feel like we have to explain things to or hide parts of ourselves due to fear. Where we don’t feel like we have to prove we are “good Jews” or say all the right things so we don’t offend. We don’t want to feel like we have to police ourselves, we just want to be free, and thats part of the healing, to be uncensored and being in the presence of safety. Having someone witness us and our stories, to focus and center our pain, Jewish pain. To hold us and be with us in our pain, providing us with the tools we need.


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