Not Feeling like Yourself

Feeling Stuck, lost,not like yourself

You know that feeling when you first wake up and you think “ugggghhhhh”. You lay there in bed struggling to move, to begin your day. You may even decide to hit the snooze button, your really not ready to start the day. As you move through your morning routine your very slow, but not deliberate, with the actions you take. It’s more like moving through quick sand or mud, your just kind of dragging. You may have a head full of swimming thoughts, unable to catch one and hold on to it. You may have no thoughts at all, just an overwhelming feeling of “blah”. You just might vacillate between the two. You head off to work and you feel the same way there. People talk to you, or really at you because your having trouble connecting to them. You don’t care what they are saying and your finding it hard to put on the fake smile. “Get me out of here” you may be thinking.
This may be a once in a blue moon experience or it might be something you experience daily, with very brief moments of relief where your feeling happy and positive.
You don’t like to think about this feeling your having. Since it doesn’t seem to one from anyone or anywhere you don’t feel like you can confide in someone about it. “They wont understand you tell yourself”. So you keep pushing down whatever feelings that try to creep in. But then suddenly your blowing up at your coworker, your friend or your spouse. It happens repeatedly and now your noticing that people, who once found you intriguing or went to you for help, are starting to avoid you. “Get a grip” you say to yourself. But you can’t. You don’t know how. Your stuck.
We all have ups and downs. It’s part of life. We set on a path and then a pebble or trees root causes us to stumble. Sometimes we can shake it off and remind ourselves to pay close attention, but then there are the times when you get a pebble, a tree root, or stone, that feels impossible to move.
It’s overwhelming sometimes, all that you have on your plate. So you feel like giving up, in the tough moments. Other times you feel like you don’t have any options, you’ve tried them all, so your feeling hopeless.
There are always options, things you haven’t tried before or maybe even a slight tweak on what you’ve all ready tried. When you have a pair of fresh eyes and ears around it can be helpful to confide in them and let them offer you their support. I think that’s why I’m such a proponent of helping people find and create connections with others. When things get hard having a person around who you can be vulnerable with and who can support you being the best version of yourself is vital. In conjunction with a support system, being able to remove yourself from the problem…creating some distance from it, will help you feel less consumed and overwhelmed by it. Finally, being reflective and tuning into yourself can help you form connections between the interplay of thoughts, feelings and behaviors. When you stuff your feelings down, in hopes that they will disappear, your doing yourself a disservice. You’re cutting off a vital piece of information that can help you take action towards your goals.
Even though our emotions can be overwhelming at times, we must find a way to take time for ourselves to just feel them. To tolerate the temporary uncomfortableness the cause as, in order to gain some awareness of what is going on, what and how to use action to move from a place of immobility to mobility where we can find our hopes and passions again.


These are just a few strategies and recommendations! I hope you found this post helpful! I’d love to hear from you in the comment section!

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Chana Lang

Chana Lang

Hi I'm Chana and I am a licensed therapist specializing in treating sexual abuse and other traumas. Whether you are pregnant survivor, a parent of a survivor or an adult survivor of sexual abuse or complex trauma I am here to support you on your healing so you can love yourself, find your empowered voice, and have the relationships you desire.

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